When the actions don't speak louder than the words...

So...once again I've felt the need to make it plain...you know how they say actions speak louder than words...yeah, yeah...true...sometimes...but here's the scenario...check it...you interest of the opposite sex...ya'll talk, hangout, and are somewhat affectionate...you really feelin them...you want more...they pop off sayin "I don't want a relationship, I just want to be friends" and that's not what you want, but to keep them in your life, you agree, and don't lie...that's why most of you agree...and things continue the way they were...why? Because THEY are using you to get what they can't get elsewhere in that moment, and they know you won't go anywhere because you want them around...easy fix, right? YES...it is...you're thinking by showing your devotion, they will come around...and they think that ya'll can hang out until what they really WANT comes around...who's fault? YOURS. When it blows up in your face, all you have to fall back on is them telling you they didn't want a relationship. Doesn't matter what either you did...from that conversation, there was an unspoken understanding...no matter what happens, we're just friends...they have convinced themselves they're doing the right thing by being "honest", and you're deluding yourself into thinking they want you and just don't know it yet. They're wrong...but you're stupid. Sorry...it's the way the cookie crumbles...I've been stupid before too. Fix it.