Sucky V day

LMAO! So...I told myself that I wouldn't let this holiday get to me...no way, lol. But it just sucks anyway. I dunno what it is, but I just want to feel good today, and I want someone to want to make me feel good today. I'm single and mingling...but it's a bit challenging for me...I'm really just ready to settle down, but there are SO MANY ADJUSTMENTS I have to make. But I think I'd rather make them than be lonely forever!!! And then...why do people make it seem like you're some kinda sucka if you want a flower or some candy, a kiss or a hug on V-day? I mean, DUH it is advertised that way for a reason, lol. Sometimes I just wonder about this whole dating thing, like maybe I don't know how to do it, or if it's just not for me. Some men think I'm too impatient, too bossy, which I can admit I have to get a handle on. I honestly think I've been bit by the independent woman bug unawares cuz I have never wanted to make anyone think I didn't need someone...and believe it or not a lot of people tell me that's just how I look. Like I DO NOT WANT TO BE BOTHERED. SMH. Well for the ones who decided to say hi anyway... <3 *muah* Happy V-day past, present and future.

To think...or not to think...

Y'all have no idea that I actually struggle to place titles on these posts, lol. This AM my mind is settled on a couple of things. First...a black man posts about the problem in the black community with absent black men and fathers, and the potential of the mini black men in training we have coming up. Inevitably comes the post that "this isn't just a problem in the black community". It being a problem within the community of another culture is not the point. It being a problem in another culture STILL does not negate the fact that black men and women are being jailed at an alarming rate. It is not strange to want to help the black community as a black person. It is not exclusive, prejudice or biased, it is natural. Why is it necessary to attempt to draw our attention away from the plight in our community because it's not just us? Does that make it somehow more ok because it's "not just blacks" experiencing it? Sounds worse to me, and like the history of racism and bias in our country is coming back around as opposed to getting better. As the majority non-whites are definitely a threat to any ideas of European cultural dominance. If you don't believe in that concept you ought to really look at the history, lol. It's not a militant statement, or anything like that. The way the world is now has to do with man's ideas of conquering, of spreading certain philosophy, of dominating cultures of people that can be manipulated. With that said, I'll return to my other thought...I've been looking at polygyny lately. Not interested in participating, but I'm curious as to how it became taboo in the western world. Statistically I believe that polygyny is less prevalent in areas where women are more educated. I find it interesting that in the church this is not mentioned, and that most Christians blindly follow the idea that monogamy is the accepted, Godly way to marry because the scripture says a man will leave his parents and cling to his wife. Well...that language is not exclusive folks. It leaves room for speculation in my mind. I've gone to church almost ALL 28 years of my life...I've studied Judaism, Catholicism, and Islam...Islam mentions it much more, the bible mentions it also...and it sounds ok to me...sounds like there are rules and that it can be economically stimulating. Obviously with people involved it gets a little bit messy and more complicated, but with folks who have the proper understanding and attitude I don't see anything wrong with it. If God shows me otherwise, then I'll think that. But the lack of discussion in churches always to me points to "it's probably ok" they just don't want to open that can of worms...the law in the US I believe makes it illegal to have more than one wife, so I wonder if the church feels that here we shouldn't practice it because it's illegal? Or if they believe it's wrong in general? I understand the bible says to follow the law of the land... SIBEBAR: Why don't you people research things outside of what you were taught was normal? Historical and religious text should supplement each other. I find it hard to believe that most of you believe your faith is the true one because you've studied multiple and proven your beliefs to be true to you. They're just what you're comfortable with. Don't let someone teach you that you cannot educate yourself further, and that it could potentially damage your faith. Gather more evidence for yourself...don't walk about confused if you are. All literature is NOT GOING TO BE 100% accurate. I don't care what anyone teaches you. God has shown us time and again that when he involves man they eff it up...so make sure you look a little harder for your truth. Topic number 3...men and women. I am a woman who believes in the role of men, and women. As a woman, I have had to be independent, and I've had to make most of the decisions concerning my household...mainly because it's just me. Let me tell you something, lol. I don't want to do it permanently. Honey if a man wants to make me his boo and he take care of everything and I just need to make sure HE's straight? SIGN ME UP. You women out there who need to prove you can do things on your own and you don't need a man, and you don't want anyone telling you what to do and blah blah blah. That's all cool, but don't at all knock those of us who HAVE done things on our own and desire to go forward a different way, lol. I'm cool on making all the decisions. I love a man who understands what his roles and responsibilities are socially, as I feel I do. I don't think that there is AT ALL a problem with gender roles, and they only threaten those who feel insecure with themselves. I do not feel threatened by any man or woman, we are all individuals. As a strong woman I've been told that I probably want a man who'll let me do whatever and I can talk to him any kind of way...HONEY NO. A punk *** man only turns me off...if I can run over you, I probably will, just because of who I am. I'm the type that will need someone to say chill out, it's just how it is. And if you can't deal with that, keep on pushing, lol, cuz I just might have you upset in the end. I will challenge and push because I like to get what I want...and if for some reason I can feel from you that I can get what I want...lol, be ready to give it, cuz I'm gonna work on you, until I get it. Now if you're a man's man...and you tell me no, I get you mean it? Then I'll leave it be, lol. So I'm thinking for me an alpha male will do just nicely. ;O)